|I had breakfast with this cute face today.|
|I stood up in my chair to get my favorite arial views|
|Shlya thought this gave her permission to stand on the table.|
|A review of her sweet spirit.|
This week my friend sent me this article called "3 Things Your Little Girl Needs From You That You May Not Realize." The article made me so super uncomfortable, but also extremely thankful that the secular and religious communities are beginning to speak out against oversexualizing this generation of little girls.
This made me examine my own parenting heart and the way Luke and I are molding Shyla to be a purpose driven little girl in a culture that worships sex and money and laughs in the face of purpose and integrity.
The first thing I need to relinquish is my control. I have a limited amount of control over what my daughter is exposed to when she is out of my care. This is a frightening, but real truth. I don't have control over who she becomes best friends with or the kind of music she will desire to listen to one day. As much as I want to think I have control, I don't. I gave that up in my prayer and reflection time this morning.
But here is what I do have: Influence and Prayer
I want to influence my daughter through my own life. I want to show her that life is about following God's purpose for your life. It is about answering to your God-given spiritual talents. For me that is living a creative, art-filled life. Shyla is a part of my creative life. She sees me create art and photograph. We go down to the art studio together and create pictures and talk about colors. I photograph her dressing up in my high heels, being silly, making funny faces. I want her to feel important in those moments where she is being uniquely her. I also want her to see me in my own moments where I am living up to my own purposeful potential. When she turns 3 this summer, Shyla is going to begin volunteering with me at food kitchens. She is going to being seeing my heart for social justice and the poor.
I also want to pray that God molds Shyla's heart to be a gift and light to others in a world that is so broken.
I pray that she chooses integrity over dishonesty, redemption over deterioration, purpose over indifference, and heart over desire.
So when it comes to raising a purpose driven daughter, I am giving up trying to control the outcome and instead choosing to live a life that will influence her to follow God's heart and live out those passions. And Lord have mercy, I can't do any of this without a little P-R-A-Y-E-R and C-O-M-M-U-N-I-T-Y.
She will fail and fall short over and over again. But thats okay because we model grace in this house.